How to Make a Good Examination of Conscience for Confession
Confession begins long before entering the confessional. The examination of conscience is the mirror that shows us where we need God's healing.
An examination of conscience is prayerful review of thoughts, words, and deeds against the Ten Commandments and Gospel before Confession. Catholics examine sins of commission and omission, note kind and number of mortal sins, and prepare to confess honestly to the priest for valid absolution.
The Sacrament of Reconciliation is one of the greatest gifts Jesus left to His Church. However, to fully receive the grace of forgiveness, a contrite heart and sincere preparation are necessary. The examination of conscience is not an exercise in guilt, but an act of love and truth before a God who is Father and Mercy.
What is the Examination of Conscience?
It is the effort to recall sins committed by thoughts, words, acts, and omissions since the last good confession. It is placing oneself under the light of the Holy Spirit to see the wounds that sin has caused in our relationship with God, with our neighbor, and with ourselves.
Step by Step for a Good Examination
1. Invoke the Holy Spirit
Alone, we tend to justify our errors or despair. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you clarity, courage, and true repentance. "Come, Holy Spirit, enlighten my mind so I may see my sins and touch my heart so I may detest them."
2. Use a Guide (Commandments)
The most classic way is to follow the Ten Commandments. Ask yourself: Did I give God first place? Did I use His name in vain? Did I keep Sundays holy? Did I honor my parents? Was I violent or did I hold grudges? Was I pure in my thoughts and actions? Was I honest? Did I speak the truth?
The Three Dimensions of Sin
- Relationship with God: Omission of prayers, lack of trust, superstitions.
- Relationship with Neighbor: Judgments, gossip, lack of charity, dishonesty.
- Relationship with Oneself: Pride, laziness, gluttony, lack of care for one's own soul.
The Sorrow of the Heart (Contrition)
More important than the list of sins is repentance. Contrition is the sorrow of the soul for having offended such a good God. Without the purpose of sinning no more, confession loses its transforming meaning.
"Confession is the baptism of tears."
— Saint John Chrysostom